maria mison: integrated awakenings

Hi. So here’s the thing. A lot of people have a very vague, Pinterest-level idea of what healing the inner child actually is. They think it’s just revisiting old hobbies, buying the toys you couldn’t afford, or complaining about how your parents raised you. It sounds nice in theory. But have you actually encountered what it feels like to completely reintegrate that fragmented kid? Have you stepped up to really own the fact that you are their parent now?

When we feel like we desperately need someone’s approval, or when we are searching for comfort and validation from external circumstances, we are technically acting like a fragile child. It’s that tiny, panicked voice inside saying, “Mom, I need help. Someone hold me through this.” I know that sounds very victim-y to some people, but I’m telling you, it’s just deeply vulnerable. It’s the baby talking.

We are expansive, multidimensional beings. That helpless, crying part of you coexists right alongside the most powerful, masterful, divine version of you—the part that actually knows shit. But when the needy part is loud, we tend to export the responsibility. We blame the environment. We blame the ex. We blame the systemic trauma. When we do that, we are essentially abandoning our inner baby. Your internal protector looks at the kid and says, “I can’t help you, someone else has more power than me.” And thus, your inner child just cries harder.

This is where the real work begins. You have to step in as the Divine Parent.

In Mark Wolynn’s book It Didn’t Start With You, he extensively covers how epigenetic trauma is inherited. The profound fears, the hyper-vigilance, and the deep-seated anxieties of our grandparents literally shape our cellular expression and how safe we feel as children. You inherited a nervous system that was already bracing for impact. But just because the trauma is inherited doesn’t mean you are powerless to parent the fragment of you holding it.

I want you to look at your blind spots. Your weak spots. If your inner kid keeps crying out that they aren’t being heard, you need to sit down and listen to them. If you’ve ever listened to Peter Crone, the “Mind Architect,” you know he is brilliant at flipping the script on our deepest, most insidious thought forms. He takes these massive, terrifying beliefs—like “I am unlovable” or “I am not safe”—and surgically decouples them from your identity. You have to do this for your inner child. You have to locate that original wound, look that fragmented piece of yourself in the eye, and flip the script.

Time is fluid. These early childhood imprints are like the center rings of a tree; their initial shape influences every ring that grows around them. When you rectify the first distortion, the healing ripples out exponentially into your current reality.

So, how do we do it? You get into a secluded, quiet place. You drop all of your consciousness into your body—maybe your lower spine or your heart—and you sink into a small, open room in your mind. You find that scared, fragile aspect of yourself. You don’t rush them. You don’t force them to stop crying. You approach them like a frightened animal.

And you give them a new script. You tell them: “I am not going to hurt you. I am here. No one is going to hurt you anymore. I will accept everything you are, no matter how messed up or dirty or heavy you feel. I am your parent now. You don’t have to look for other people to save you.”

When you fully liberate that inner child, your Divine Parent energy gets incredibly strong. It is this deep sense of sovereignty and ownership over your own life. You no longer need an external adult to tell you that you are doing great. You are raising yourself. You are the parent. You are independent, divinely sovereign, and free.

If you want to do more one-on-one work, especially if you have sensitive stuff around your upbringing or if you touched on some really deep fragments you want to unpack, book a session with me via mariamison.io. Let’s do the work.